In the article, If You Want Positive Change, Begin With Gratitude it explains that our thoughts have a powerful impact on our body. Even if we focus on what we don’t want, our body doesn’t know the difference and we will continue to receive and see everything that we don’t want. Now if someone is depressed they may be more likely to click on something about depression because they are already in that cycle but just knowing you are reading about depression has already altered the state of every cell in your body. The more laden words the brain reads, the heavier the body begins to feel and as I previously explained in my article on gratitude, this is because of how our bodies are bundles of electricity so negative things bring our frequency down and positive things raise our frequency up. A low frequency makes us more susceptible to sickness, depression, and so on. So having said that, I will focus on what lifestyle habits we can all practice that can increase the level of happiness we feel overall. Now people closely identify happiness with success so my list will revolve around both happiness and success.
There are two main ingredients to being happy which Dr. Robert Huff explains in his article, Two Key Steps To Finding Happiness and those are, getting out of your own head and being present. I am going to break those down into ten basics steps you can take to accomplish those two ingredients to happiness because when you are in a state of depression, hearing those two things seems so daunting you want to give up before you even start. To appreciate the mind-body connection and its importance in success I encourage you to grab a pen and paper, (blank on both sides), and check out: Success Through Your Mind Body Connection. If you feel that’s all you need to know, I encourage you to read the above articles and that should be enough. For a further breakdown, here is my list:
1. Diet & Exercise – I know, I know, you have heard this a million times and may have even rolled your eyes when reading this but it truly helps. First of all, remember as I mentioned before that everything has electricity and an energy to it and that includes the foods we eat. The more wholesome the food, the better we feel. My father and my son’s father were both hunters and to this day I rarely can find any meat that made me feel better than the meat they brought home. A lot of this has to do with the state of the animal, how it lived. If we are what we think and experience, then how much more does that affect our food? Think about fruit you had straight from a tree or vine versus the fruit from the store or in a can along with vegetables from a garden compared to from a store. The human body functions at about 60-82 hertz and foods, herbs, and essential oils all have a wide range of hertz. (For more information check out: Vibrational Frequency List or Raise Your Immunity Frequency With Essential Oils…) Our food greatly affects us as much as we can affect our food. Add exercise to eating healthy and you begin raising your energy level and the frequency your body functions at. Taking a walk outside and focusing on the nature around you can be enough to completely transform a mood which brings me to number two…
2. Commune with Nature – When we are unhappy we have a habit of getting stuck in our own pattern of thinking, sometimes making us feel guilty for being so self-absorbed which makes us feel worse about ourselves and the cycle continues. Go outside! Enjoy plants, animals, insects, anything you can see outside and just breathe. If you are taking a walk, focus on the activity around you, listen to your breathing change, your heart and lungs getting stronger as you exercise them at your own pace. This is a fast and quick way to step out of yourself for a while and break the familair thought patterns that are keeping you feeling down.
3. Make Lists – Make good lists. If you are feeling unsuccessful or have goals you want to accomplish but don’t know where to start then just sit down and make lists. List your unique talents and abilites. List activities you do that help you feel better including the things that you lose all track of time doing. Make a list of things you desire and look at that list every morning and every night before bed but don’t obsess, don’t create a rigid plan, just write them down. When we try to figure out how something is going to happen, or raise our expectations, we are doing so based on our past and everything we know from our past. Relinquish your attachment to the known which creates expectations and be open to possibilities. We don’t know what the future holds so make your lists, grow confident with them, adjust them, but also trust them.
4. Create – Find that creative spark. Look at those lists you made about the activities you do that are so fun you lose all track of time; the ones that help you process emotions, help you heal, feel heard, feel most like you and do them, do them without setting an expectation for yourself. Share them or don’t share them but do it for you first, no one else.
5. Gratitude – Make one of those lists a list of things you are grateful for, things you do have. In the state of gratitude we teach our mind and bodies to be open receivers to more things that bring gratitude.
6. Know the Flow – There is a flow of life and the more you are connected to it the less committed you will be to holding on to your need for control which only leads to disappointment anyway. The more we try to force anything the more we push it away, the more we exhaust ourselves. In Deepak Chopra’s book, The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success he states, “Without uncertainty and the unknown, life is just a stale repetition of outworn memories. You become the victim of the past, and your tormentor today is your self left over from yesterday.” How can we connect to the flow of life and keep it balanced? Be aware of the cycle of life and living and accept it. Everything changes every day down to the cells in our body to the constructs of the universe. Practice giving and receiving equally, free of expectations or assumptions of any outcome. Listen to music. Music can heal as well. I will include a list of examples with links to the sounds: 396 Hz – Release patterns of guilt and fear; 417 Hz – Breaking up crystallized emotional patterns; 528 Hz – Transormation, Healing, DNA Repair, (Miracles); 639 Hz – Connecting Relationships; 741 Hz – Awakening intuition and non-linear knowing; 852 Hz- Awakening Intuition, returning spiritual order.
7. Be Present – Being present in the moment means a lot of things; as mentioned above, you must be able to not be stuck in thoughts about the past or feelings you may have based on past experiences. Being present means being in a state of acceptance, you hold yourself accountable for where you are in your life and let go of the need to blame. When you are frustrated or upset with a situation or a person know that this is your reaction to how you are feeling. It is no one else’s responsibility to control how you feel but yours. Knowing this helps you learn how to respond as opposed to just reacting to others. When you realize this you will become less rigid and will be more accepting along with being less likely to have the last word, to continually prove your point, or defend your point of view. You will be more relaxed and open to the possibilities of the future.
8. Love – Learn to love what you have and who you are. Feel all of the love that is all around you already. Don’t limit love to your idea of what it is or should be based only on your past experiences but be open to the possibilities of love in the unknown. For a broader understanding of what love means in all of its original definitions, see my article: Knowing The True Meaning Of Love…
9. Know Thyself – I don’t need to explain this one to you. If you read all of the above then you are already realizing exactly who you are and who you know you can be. Know yourself at your core, free from outside influence, look at your lists, stay connected to that knowing.
10. Enjoy the Silence – Relax. Set aside a little time each day for quiet time to stay connected to yourself. Even if it’s just driving for 15 minutes without the radio on or cleaning a room in the house quietly but start somewhere and work on increasing that time more and more as your circumstances allow. Avoid as much stimulation as possible, no reading, no television, no music, just you.
Being happy and successful is not selfish, especially if your intent is to continue the flow of positive change. The happier you are the less internally focused you are which makes you more loving and selfless. It also attracts more positive in your world. I encourage you to share any of your tips on being happy and successful in your life in the comment section below.
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