When you see or hear about a gay couple that has been together twenty or thirty years, there is something in you that just glows. Your heart is warmed by the fact that two people made it that far in life and love together. It is a happy ending that we all strive for but while your visioning cotton candy and kool-aid, the two fortunate individuals in that mental picture are reminiscing about the battles it took to make it to that point. They are remembering the relationship scars and bruises they endured so that we can have an example of a happy ending.
It takes a lot of courage, sacrifice and heart to end up in the lovely portrait of sustainable love. When we think about that point in a relationship where two people can exhale in relief, we don’t ever picture people holding their breath in anguish to fight another day. The fact is not every relationship goes along seamlessly as others but it is those struggles that make your relationship stronger so that you can look forward to twenty-five years being together.
One of the hidden secrets of maintaining that happy long lasting relationship is not letting the past tear you down. It is very easy to let the past creep upon you once your relationship is in order. There is no doubt, you must learn from the past or be doomed to repeat it but if you dwell on it and the hurt you felt, you won’t be able allow a more positive experience in. Also, if you find yourself constantly feeling hurt from the past, then those issues are in the present. You and your partner, meaning it will take both of you, need to sit down to hash out your problems.
A wise woman once said “When two people fall in love they could eat each other up. Some years later you wish that you had.” The whole point being made here is that relationships won’t be easy. That simply is common sense and fact but once you get to a place of leveled contentment, you don’t want foul images of the past throwing you off your even keel. Recognize when you are at the point of a happy ending. When you are able to see that your relationship has become a fantastic triumph, you don’t want the remains of the pasts to destroy your beautiful reward.