Domestic Violence is a pattern of behavior used to establish power and control over another person through fear and intimidation, often including the threat or use of violence. Abuse is physical, sexual, emotional, economic or psychological actions or threats of actions that influence another person. This includes any behaviors that frighten, intimidate, terrorize, manipulate, hurt, humiliate, blame, injure or wound someone.
Domestic violence has no boundaries and can happen to anyone of any race, age, sexual orientation, religion or gender.Abusers often maintain power over their partners through behaviors that lower their partner’s self-esteem and make them feel helpless.
Abusers may use both emotional and physical abuse to exert control. Even if it does not leave scars that you can see, emotional abuse can cause serious harm. Depression, anxiety and low self-esteem can be lasting consequences of abuse.
Signs of emotional abuse:
- head games
- blame game
- name calling
- history of bad relationships
Many times people excuse emotional abuse because there are no visible scars to see. So they view it as a little spat or misunderstanding but emotional abuse is very serious and can lead to a very dangerous situation.While words are not thought to hurt they never leave the back of your mind once repeatedly spoken. An emotional threat if ignored can turn physical. That does not mean to adhere to the threats, it means to take it seriously and get help. It is never your fault when someone bullies you or threatens you. So often an abuser seeks out vulnerability because it is likely you will want to see the best in someone and reason away their abuse until it’s too late. That in no way makes it your fault, it means your human. It also means to watch for red flags and get out as soon as possible. We know all too well that is easier said than done. That is not a good excuse to stay because no one deserves it.
Does your partner:
- have a bad and unpredictable temper?
- hurt you, or threaten to hurt or kill you?
- threaten to take your children away or harm them?
- threaten to commit suicide if you leave?
- force you to have sex?
- destroy your belongings?
- act excessively jealous and possessive?
- control where you go or what you do?
- keep you from seeing your friends or family?
- limit your access to money, the phone, or the car?
- constantly check up on you?
- humiliate or yell at you?
- criticize you and put you down?
- treat you so badly that you’re embarrassed for people to see?
- ignore or put down your opinions?
If you feel these things, you are not alone. It may not seem serious, please seek help. This behavior does not go away. It is only acceptable if you stay. There are many resources available.It can happen to men or women. It used to be thought only women can be abused but this is a myth. Anyone being abused should seek help. Check out this website for more information: www.voices-amplified.com