Men tend to tune out the woman in their life. They may be on their phone or listening to their ipod or on the computer, but nodding and the occasional uhuh doesn’t cut it. Women need to know that you are being attentive, that you are listening to them. Communication is so important in relationships and if the woman in your life sees you doing other things while she is trying to communicate with you it sends the message that what she is saying or her concerns or issues are unimportant.
Whether she is trying to talk to you about the kids, the scheduling of events, the daily happenings or even asking you about your day, stop what you are doing and look at your wife or significant other and give them the respect of listening and having an actual conversation.
Texting I love you’s and sweet messages are nice, but face to face conversation means so much to women. Women need attention, just as men do. If you need to designate a time that works best, ie: after the kids are in bed or after a show they want to watch or whatever time works best for both, then do that. Don’t just disregard or ignore your spouse. A relationship cannot survive without communication. Put the phones down or turn them off, do not be on the computer or in front of the t.v. Take time to pay attention to your spouse. This does not need to be everyday or every minute you are together, but there does need to be communication and attention paid to each other.
Distance and the failing of the relationship can happen so quickly and it is hard to get back what you had once it is gone. Do not let this happen. Spouses are going to get upset with each other. Things are going to need to be discussed. Don’t close down and get so busy that your marriage, your relationship come in last place.
Family should be first and this includes your marriage. Work at it. Take it seriously. Cherish it and make it your priority. Love your spouse with everything you have. Talk with your spouse. Understand them in happy and sad times and be there for them. Hold them close. Love them with all you have.
Most couples know each other at the beginning. They learn things about each other, they pay attention to small details and put effort into the relationship. As time goes on, they lose sight of their spouse and become more focused on the kids, their jobs, themselves. Most believe that their spouse will always be there. They stop trying. They stop showing that they care. They assume their spouse knows how they feel. Never assume. Take each day to show your love, your respect, that you care and learn about your spouse as your both grow and you change. Pay attention to small details, to comments made, to likes and dislikes. Love you spouse as you vowed to do…from this day forward….and your marriage has a greater chance.