Virginity isn’t just a word. It is a lifestyle and a commitment that many people cannot keep. Back when our great great grandparents were teenagers, safe-sex was not taught in schools, nor was it even something to even talk about in a friendly conversation, let alone in public.
The world has twisted the pure innocence of virginity and has labeled it pitiful or not popular to wait until marriage. When did this start happening we may never know, but the media has it strewn all over with teens getting pregnant or parents allowing their kids staying in their bedrooms with their boyfriend or girlfriend. Safe-sex has been promoted more than abstinence, because adults can not preach what they are not doing themselves.
Abstinence is a huge subject that has been beaten around the bush with parents and their teens. It is hard to bring up or be taken seriously when such a subject is brought up. But, to shy away and never warn or talk about this with teenagers is setting them up for being the status quo and carrying baggage with them the rest of their lives.
So how to bring this up with them? Sit down with them whether its at home or somewhere you both can enjoy quality time such as fishing, sitting at the beach, taking a road trip, wherever you feel is best. Express to them how important it is to respect themselves and that people that force themselves on them are not worth giving that precious gift away.
Some parents use promise rings with their teens to show how they really care and it is a visible promise the teen is making to their parents about staying pure until marriage. Let’s face it, we all have human natures and can fail. Wearing a ring doesn’t mean a special power will keep them away from the other sex, but it is a reminder that can help them remember your special talk and keep them from putting themselves in certain situations.
Make sure when your teens are hanging out with the opposite sex whether alone or in a group that you know where they are. You don’t have to text every hour but set a comfortable boundary where they do check in, or if they are hanging out in the house that doors aren’t closed and that bedrooms are off limits, not that they would have sex while you are in the house, but other things can happen that they may regret later.
Parents need to be proactive and be involved in their teenagers’ life. Being pure is a blessing and can be such a huge gift for their future spouse to appreciate! It is a hard thing to deal with the criticism and being the back end of jokes for standing for purity, but in the end it is worth all the tears or not being invited to do things that would have maybe ended in compromise.