A love triangle is a difficult relationship for each individual involved. It may occur in a variety of combinations and often result in negative experiences amongst each individual tangled in the unhealthy web. This form of relationship results in conflicting emotions, jealousy, and confusion that are masked by an intense individualized perception of love. In order to gain control of such a relationship, each individual must gain control of themselves. Displacing confused emotions on others will fester any problems and deter from conflict-resolution.
Recently, headlines have exploded throughout social media referencing an altercation concerning Chris Brown, Rihanna, and Drake. Although many fingers are pointing to make allegations regarding the start of the altercation, outsiders refuse to see their input influences the artists’ emotions in multiple aspects. These entertainment icons have millions of people to fester their personal matter, making conflict resolution more difficult to implement.
To gain control of a love triangle, the first step is for each individual in the relationship to stop pointing fingers to blame one another. It is true you cannot help whom you love; however, you can control many experiences in your life. It is important to remember that all decisions and actions are reinforced whether it is positive or negative. Blaming the people in your love triangle is a form of denial for your contributions to any circumstance created within the relationship. Exhibiting this behavior shows your current inability to accept accountability for self-management. Secondly, take time out to reflect on your own feelings; do not worry about the other person’s feelings until you gain full control of yourself. Also, limit the number of people you speak to about your situation. Surround yourself with positive support. It would not be a good idea for the “wrong” people you trust to provide feedback that is not realistic for you. You will be able to recognize this if their verbal or nonverbal support does not show empathy towards your emotions and/or neglects to maintain a neutral perspective. Limiting your circle will also assist you to sustain rational thoughts and behaviors. Therefore, if or when you are provided the opportunity to interact with the other parties involved in the relationship quarrel, you have the opportunity to communicate your honest thoughts rationally. Third, learn to accept the decisions you made and redirect your energy to enhance a positive outcome. Your life will lead you to where your thoughts are dwelling. Lastly, remember one day these matters will be resolved after you take initiative to focus on your needs and list of achievements.