After living alone for nearly ten years, I realized the importance of spending time with family whether it is at events, family reunions, Thanksgiving dinners, Sunday dinners, or movie night. Last night, I spent time with my mother on a hot Friday evening, and watched “Big Happy Family” by Tyler Perry Studios. We laughed, cried, and wondered why families do not love one another, separated from past grudges or disagreements, and usually wait until someone dies to be closer as a family.
What are some ways we can spend more time with family and get over the past offenses? First, we should admit how someone wronged us, or hurt us. We have to find a cordial way to say it without offending or hurting them in return. Second, after confessing these issues to one another, then we can find ways we can avoid this occurring again with positive resolutions. Sometimes, telling someone you love them and a hug or comforting touch will let them know you care. Lastly, we have to forgive those who hurt or offended us. We can tell them face-to-face, on the phone, on webcam or Skype to make amends. Now it is time to let go and let God. We have released the bad feelings, emotions, and offenses by getting things off our chest and burdens are lifted. Do not bring up the past after you have resolved it. This is how we let go, and allow God to work on renewing our hearts and minds to love them unconditionally. We also know what will trigger those negative feelings or emotions, and how someone can press our buttons, and become aware of those triggers to leave before it gets heated up with those family members. Now we are relieved and can start brand new with someone who loves you.
Back to the movie feature, the highlighted part that moved and touched my mother’s soul was Lorretta Devine’s character (mother) who died from cancer. This was a dysfunctional family with diversified personalities, relationships, and upbringing. There was a career-minded woman who viewed her family as ghetto and preferred to keep her infant son away from them. She kept her distance but also had anger issues due to a past secret that eventually came out at the dinner table, which she had to face her hidden secret that came to the light. She didn’t realize that she had to forgive her abuser, and allow her husband and family members love her. She had to release those demons she held on since she was twelve years old. Over eighteen years later, she had to heal and be delivered through forgiveness. Her older sister allowed her children to rule over their household, and ignored their destructive behaviors because she would not allow her husband to discipline them, or be the head of the household. Once their problems were dissolved, she knew this marriage and family could be turned around for their good. Overall, this movie showcased how families need to work out their issues such as effective communication, acceptance of roles in the family, seek counseling or help with past grudges and offenses, and willingness to resolve family disagreements. We are to love one another, be on good terms, because we never know when one will die and never got the chance to apologize or resolve those disagreements. We may quarrel, have disputes and debates, and even a difference of opinion but to have a discord and hate towards family members is not good for your soul or health. Please make amends before it’s too late.
Today, my mother and I will go see “Witness Protection” at Northtown movie theater. We enjoy spending time together and especially a good movie. We also both auditioned for Witness Protection Tyler Perry Studios on youtube.com. Our video clip features are available at Adrienna Turner network.