What is civility and why is it important today? With the rampant acts of rude and uncivil behavior occurring daily it’s time for everyone to embrace civility. Civility is about respect and nurturing relationships and genuinely caring for each other. That means we can agree to disagree. We all have the right to our own opinions and need to respect the opinions of others.
Did you know that in Chase’s calendar of events every May is International Civility Awareness Month? In order to help everyone today, civility intiatives are taking place around the globe.
Civility is not a new concept by any means, dating back to ancient times it reflects on the interaction of mankind and civilization. It is the foundation upon which civil society functions.
Civitas means city and relates to how global citizens interact with each other.
“One in four American say they have no one to talk to about important subject—more than double the percent in 1985,” says Susan Jacoby in The Age of American Unreason, published in 2008.
It’s especially interesting because we are more advanced technologically than ever before. Yet, in many respects technology is leading to the decline of conversation.
A favorite quote of mine is by Sir Winston Churchill, the British politician and Statesman, “Courage is what it takes to stand up and speak; courage is also what it takes to sit down and listen.”
In this age of technology we are losing some of the key elements of humanity. Let’s open the conversation lines and work on our effect and active listening skills to bring civility back in style. Making The Civility Lifestyle, the lifestyle of choice.
I’m sure that everyone can easily think of a person at an event in which unbecoming behavior was used. Did you know that in business these acts hurt productivity as well as effect self-esteem?
To gain better insight in ways to curb this wave of rudeness, author Dr. P. M. Forni of the Johns Hopkins University in Baltimore, Maryland and has written two books, Choosing Civility: The Twenty-Five Rules of Considerate Conduct and What to do when people are rude.
Upon meeting Dr. Forni at an AICI international conference we had a discussion as to the importance of raising the topic of civility at this time. It’s clear that we need help therefore by writing and sharing this message we can help the world with a civility initiative.
This is not to say we will go back to a lifestyle like it was in the 1950’s. We need to understand how technology is affected the way we learn and interact daily. So we need to work on the civility quotient of life and actively work on effective and active listening.
Did you know that you could hear 10 times faster than you think?
So when listening to someone speak you may feel you know what they are saying before they have finished their thought. Let’s look at the art of conversation and how we listen.
Please consider trying a few of my tips on effective and active listening:
- Think before speaking
- Listen to the entire thought before speaking
- Consider the impact of your words
- To the world a better place, it all starts with a conversation of respect for each other
Please consider sharing the civility and celebrate the spirit of civility during every month of the year.
To learn more consider reading:
The Power of Civility