Home-schoolers get their share of challenging situations, just like everyone else. One of the biggest challenges is a child who decides they want to go to public school after being home-schooled. If this happens to you, nobody will have the answers for you, and nobody can solve your problem for you. It’s something you just have to work through – and pray over. However, here are some helpful things to consider as you work through this challenge.
- Kids are who they are, and home-schooling will not force them to be unsocialized anymore than public school can force all children into becoming out-going socialites.
- Is home-schooling working for you? I’m not asking if it’s perfect, because no school will ever be perfect. I’m only asking if it’s working! Are your kids progressing through subjects, learning things, doing things?
- Don’t ask yourself if something else MIGHT work better, because you don’t know for sure if the grass is really greener somewhere else. You only know your own home-school. Is it working? If it’s working, don’t stop!
- Parents make decisions, not children.
- Children don’t change completely when they change schools. They are still the same person with the same weaknesses and struggles.
- When a child grows up, and becomes adult, sometimes changes are needed. This may be a situation where an alternative may be appropriate. My article on Community College fads may be helpful to you, and you might want to look into College Plus. Although neither option is perfect for everyone, one of those options may be helpful to you now.
- Involve your child in planning the year. Include delight-directed learning, and make sure curriculum choices fit your CHILD rather than you, the teacher.
- If your child feels stifled, the solution may be work. The best way to experience the world is to WORK in the world, not go to school with age-segregated people. That’s not at all what the real world is like. Can your child get employment and have a real job with others?
- If you are dealing with a young man, you might enjoy my husband’s article on Raising Men, as well as our YouTube video.
Lastly, don’t take it personally if your child wants to leave home-schooling! Although it may feel like a rejection of you, it’s more likely your child wants to explore and experiment, or they think that another school scenario will fix their problems. Get to the heart of the matter, and address whatever the issues are first, before you hit the panic button! Hang in there!