Who makes a good life partner? That is probably the question of the year because the answer varies for every marriage. What do you say it is for you? What makes the answer to the question so hard to manifest is that we tend to not voice it.
We expect for our potential spouse to read our minds only to create a frustrating marriage when they don’t. So what does a good life partner look like to you? Maybe one who is kind to you and caring to you and others?
Maybe one who simply has a good a job? Or maybe even one is always the life of the party? The problem with the last two is we tend to overlook their other little quirks that will later become big quirks. Some do believe that a good Jack makes a good Jill, I tend to agree.
If a husband or man wants his wife or girlfriend to be respectful and loving to him, he should be respectful and loving to her. Don’t blame your wife for being short-tempered with you; you’ve been so unpleasant to her lately.
A good husband makes a good wife. I think the goal to finding your life partner is knowing yourself and knowing what you need. Note that there is a difference in knowing what you need and what you want. We all want someone who looks good, who makes us laugh, has a great paying job, etc.
I think we all need someone who supports us in what we do, who is loyal to us, who respects us, and who trusts us. Before we can find that person, we need to be that person. We also need to love ourselves. Loving yourself starts when you accept yourself, for who you are. That includes accepting your faults and shortcomings. We are human and that is all we can be, nothing more, nothing less.
Do you show the world the real you or is it a mask? Loving yourself means doing good things for your body, mind, and spirit. This includes eating healthy, exercise, limiting that amount of alcohol you consume, stop smoking, learn something new, challenge yourself mentally and physically, connect with the world around you. The list of positive things is endless.
Doing good things for yourself includes respecting yourself. Are you able to love yourself? If not how can you start? Picture your relationship as a house. Personally, I see love as the mortar that holds the “bricks” of a relationship/house together. You can have all the mortar in the world, but a house cannot be built of mortar alone.
The bricks are the essential building blocks of a relationship such as respect, loyalty, friendship, admiration, and trust. A healthy relationship must consist of two individuals who respect, admire, and trust each other. Loyalty and friendship are built off of those three things; you cannot have these without them.
The foundation consists of values and beliefs, “how you see the world”. Do you and your partner see the world in similar ways? If not can you accept and understand the differences between your views and those of your partner. This is what a true life partner/marriage relationship can be built on.
There are so many things that need to be considered before and after starting a relationship. What does the rest of the relationship house consist of? The doors are entryways. Do you allow others to enter into your relationship or are your doors closed off. The windows allow a view inside your relationship.
Who is allowed to see inside? Inside are the memories, events, and actions that build the relationship. Love needs a solid foundation, its needs structure. A house is a basic structure, the more love and nurturing you put into it is what makes it a home. How strong is the foundation of your marriage? In a strong marriage you should be able to also make adjustments as needed.