You dont have to like what is going on in your life but you must accept it. As long as you are in denial and avoiding it you are in a powerless position. You are running away from your life. By failing to face it and accept it you suffer more.
Acceptance is to see it for what it really is. When something in your life is not going your way it doesn’t make sense to you and you may be angry or scared or both. You become a “victim of circumstances” and then you have that to clear.
For instance many men and women know their spouses are cheating on them all over town and can not, will not accept it. To accept it means you have to do something about it. They feel unworthy, unattractive and undesirable. You have no sense, nothing makes sense. It is however apassing situation and it can be handled. Acceptance of the situation embracing the situation, seeing it for what it really is, what is really going on an inner knowing that all will be well, no matter what is going no matter how awful it is. Acceptance can make it easier to deal with and give you back your power.
Another example of none acceptance is that many men and women are in relationships they know will not end up in marriage or are abusive, the commitment to the relationship and to you as a human being are not being honored. You are settling for less and you are very unhappy and there is alot of turmoil going on. When this type of situation is happening along with it comes many other small ways you are not being honored throughout the relationship that show you that this significant other is not respecing and honoring you.
Acceptance doesn’t mean you apporove of what is going on, you may still be mad and scared but you can be calmer, because you are able to detach yourself from it. With some perspective now you may even know exactly what to do. You are leaving the “happy place” you go to when you can not handle what is happening to you for protection and what is done in disguise in now revealed.
It is part of being on the path and hearing the call, it is a right of passage. It is allowing light to come in where there has been none. You are called to “grow up” in courage and show them what you are made of. Owning it and doing it. Spirit is ringing your bell, are you going to rise from the dead and wake up and really look around you to see what is going on? You will live through it, and not play the role of “victim” and get “unstuck”.
“When you see that what you are doing is not working, what you have chosen is not working, you now have the power to make another choice. When what you are doing is not bringing you the thoughts and feelings you desire, make another choice. Regardless of how much time you have spent, or how much energy you have expended doing whatever it is you are doing, if it is not working make another choice. Choice does not mean you are fickle or spaced or abandon or give up. Choice simpley means that you recognize the conflict, chaos, or pain the first choice has created; you choose to eliminate that experience by making another choice.” -Iyanla Vanzant, from her book, “One Day My Soul Just Opened Up.”
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